I’ve been thinking about this and I’m curious what people actually do in real life, not just what gets said online.
With how things are right now, it feels kind of off to expect guys to pay for everything, especially in the early stages. I personally feel awkward letting someone cover everything when I barely know them. It’s not that I don’t appreciate the gesture, it just makes me feel a bit uncomfortable.
I also know girls who openly admit they go on dates just for free food, which kind of made me look at this whole thing differently. At the same time, I’ve seen the other side where some guys act like paying means they’re owed something, which I don’t agree with at all.
Because of that, I feel like it makes more sense to keep first dates simple, like coffee or something lowkey, and either split or just keep it easy for both people. I also find big sit-down dinners with someone you don’t know that well kind of awkward anyway.
So I guess I’m wondering: 1. Do people still expect the guy to pay for everything at the beginning?
Is splitting pretty normal now? If you ask someone out, do you feel like you should pay?
Also, is it weird to suggest something more casual instead of a dinner date?
Not because of lack of interest, just because it feels more comfortable and less pressure.
Curious what people actually think and do.
